Tuesday, May 19, 2009

For the Record

For the record, mom's who choose to work or have no problem going to work are not bad moms. Being a stay-at-home mom is what I would love, but it doesn't mean all moms should feel this way. I have a friend who sincerely believes that she's a better mom for working and you know what, she probably is. If you are happy, your kids will pick up on this and will know and remember you as their happy mom. If you are miserable, regardless of going to work or staying home, you're kids will remember this. This is not to say you're kids shouldn't see you struggle. If they can't see you overcome your hardship how will they figure out how to overcome their own someday?

I sometimes wonder if I'm a better mom for working because now every moment with my kids count. But, then I think that's just crazy talk ;-). I do remember that there were days when I was home with my kids that I'd think, "Dear God, please let today end." I never feel that way anymore. Now, I'll take whatever I can get - it's seriously desperate. Being at home is a luxury for me - even if the house isn't clean. Having to work isn't the worst thing that could happen to me or my kids. I do need to remember that it's also not an excuse to be an ineffective parent. Time is time. This life is what I have. I've got to find a way to make it work until it just works.

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